Lessons Learned

ImageWhen I am passionate about something, such as my business and my writing I have incredible amounts of energy. Yet, I fail to find the same level of energy when I look at my pile of laundry. We are only here for a short time and what really matters at this stage of my life is often the question? I have had to lower the bar on my expectations of myself. I have had to re-evaluate my life and make peace with this condition. I wish I could report this was an easy task but it has not been. The harsh reality that I am not invincible has come as a crushing blow, but are any of us?  Invincible, that is? I am not Superwoman, nor is anyone I know of, although a few come pretty close, these are the lessons I learned over the summer.

   Life is not a competition although it may appear to be, it is not if you choose to see it as such. The sooner I let this ideology go, the better I felt. Type A meet type B. All I have is today and beyond that
is something I will address the next day. Living at a more relaxed pace has become paramount to accomplishing anything. I did not get everything done in one day before, I won’t now either. I walk, pray, meditate, write, listen to music, all to maintain an inner peace and calm. I sit and listen to my inner voice. If it feels good I proceed forward and if not, I walk away.
  Let people be responsible for their own lives. This includes loved ones, friends, etc. By constantly doing for others they are not learning how to do for themselves which robs them of skills and lessons they need to learn to be more independent. Independence and achievement bring self confidence, it is not for me to take that away.
Remain a humanitarian as I sense that is my path in life.
  I am not alone in my life. My thinking went something like this: “ I will do it myself, “ I can’t wait for them!”. In retrospect, I never let anyone do anything for me, and as such I did do it all. Now, I ask can you help me with this or that? To suddenly ask for help came as an incredible shock to many people. I started reaching out because I could no longer do some things by myself.
Now this took incredible courage on my behalf but it was necessary. The best thing I did was talk to people about this condition & almost immediately I felt empowered.
      Look at doing something different for a career. What I was doing for work in the helping professions was working with people that were deaf, the mentally ill, the physically challenged, the drug or alcohol addicted, the learning disabled, etc. I was at the far end of the spectrum when it came to helping people. I am now concentrating my energies in the area of prevention of mental illnesses, drug or alcohol abuse,etc.by pursuing an education and a career in the herbalist/wholistic therapy profession.
    Live in abundance. Surround yourself with people that are passionate about life. People that are living their dreams. Take the higher road. Live in love and in light, there is enough darkness. Live with pride and honour.
Hug people more!
    Stop the madness!!! After three months of specialists and appointments I had, had enough. I went on holidays and took a much needed break from what had become an on going saga of diagnosis’s ( all related to the Fibromyalgia) and unfilled prescriptions. In my experience I found all of this to be extremely negative and dreaded leaving the house, no this was not living. I knew that the power of positive thinking and naturopathy would be far more advantageous to me than wondering which of the many medications I was prescribed was giving me which side effect or was that part of my Fibromyalgia. I am by no means suggesting people do not listen to your doctor or the specialists, I made the choice that was right for me and me alone. As I had a degree in psychology I knew that the power of one’s mind and allowing the patient to be an active participant in their own treatment has been statistically proven to heal people faster than any medication will.
Above all, I learned to love me as I am. That was the best gift of all.

2 thoughts on “Lessons Learned

  1. The Sun of Man says:

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  2. You are so right…we have this life to make as pleasing, creative and productive as we choose. I made a life changing decision when I came to Canada and although the family resisted at first, they are slowly accepting my writing life is important to me. Stay strong.

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